HAND of GOD !

It was Wednesday, 26^th September 2001, evening when my wife had almost went into depression with a thought that she may have to go through cesarean. With a 9 month 12 days belly (yes .. late by 3 days) and swollen feet she rushed to hospital, frantically calling me. I was In utter state of mix emotions to either swim in thoughts of sheer happiness we will witness and top of mind terror thoughts of what would my wife go through. Recently, I happened to read one of circulating BBM message on how painful is labour pains. It reads like this –

“Pain of mother..! A human body can bear a pain of 45 dols (unit of pain) of pain while alive. But when a woman gives birth she bears 56 dols of pain… We already give deadly pain to her at our birth itself… So don’t hurt her hereafter… Love your mother than any other!”

But 10 years back my mind was in verge of malfunction as I hop-skipped-jump all transport to reach home. I was 23 then and the only thing that can send chill to my spine was thought of slitting the stomach of my dear wife for delivery. By the time I reached hospital, doctor had been generous to wait for one day.

Like a typical couple, my wife and me had “dad-wants-daughter-mom-wants-son” tiff frequently till last days. Yeah.. that’s what I believe every parent do ! “Mamma’s boy” and “Dad’s Girl” – that’s how human’s brain melt & heart beats for their child. Indeed we as a child too have gone through same experience of always felt your heart more towards one of your parent. It’s not about whom you love the most, but one become’s your savior when other is tough on you, loved by both, ones an idol. I was only boy and second child to my parent, “Mamma’s boy” but my idol was always my Dad as he passed down lot of his skills to me … and some of traits too. As sibling you always hate other most because your parents love him/her most. Between me and my elder sister, my parents never discriminated their shower of love. I was born to great couple who spent their interest of education, career, marriages etc equally in both children. My sister must feel lucky to be born in the era of changing minds of Indian couple’s.

Indian stats don’t suggest the same though. Sex discriminations has been top 3 social cause that had been ailing rural Indian for ages…. And we believe it is still too ! Recent India Census Survey indicate lowest drop since Independence on sex ratio- 914 per 1000 boys for age group 0-6. What interest to me is 2001 survey indicated rural India has best ratio than an urban. In 2011 survey Gadchiroli which is one of village district in Maharashtra recorded highest ratio among all districts. A city like Mumbai has a worst ratio of 838 per 1000 males. Delhi is not different too. Several NGO’s been striving to drive “Save a girl Child” campaigns.

It’s time that we stop fool the world that its society and culture is root cause of sex discrimination. Urban Indians are equally responsible for this issue. We still live by the thought is boy child is must in the family… yes that’s the fact.. that thought of “wish for a boy child now” will keep hitting your brain no matter how much you live in modernism. Who will run the family name ? Urban India will still think that.

I recalled from one of our visits to sonography test, I made desperately tries looking at screen to know what am wishing for. I dare not even asked the doctor that stupid question but that time I only wished he may quip instantly “Mr. Dad, be ready to offer me a Burfi !” .. if you are Indian you know what does that mean. BUT I NEVER ASKED THAT STUPID QUESTION !

In the hospital next day, my wife and me, for a change, only wished for happiness. Boy or girl, it will be our only child … it seems like we promised each-other before she entered OT.

If Child is a gift of GOD, Daughters are gift with wrapping of happiness. A mother finds her childhood in her, a dad finds best love he gets from girl after his wife. As a child she gets matured more early to handle responsibilities towards family. She is more attached to parents than boy child. She may be fragile at heart but strong to family values. Now in modern India, she has proved that she is competent to support the family including her siblings. She has proved to take every job in every field. She is first to extend her hand to her parents even if she has left her nest. She is the one whom you trust… forever.. till end of your life. She has that … HAND OF GOD !

27^th September 2001, 10:28 AM .. my wife gave birth to our daughter. I remember the thrill, when I held her in minutes after she saw this world. Today after 10 years, as a single-child-daughter parents, we do feel proud as we say “She’s our only child and we can give best of what we can !” … as far as my family name …. It’s in the HAND OF GOD !

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